My oldest daughter, Paige, is now mid-season in her second year of girl’s high school wrestling. Last year, watching wrestling, this mama was a real hot mess; I had no idea the amount of throwing around, twisting unnaturally, and bending forcefully that would be involved in this sport. You could say I was very much a nervous rookie wrestling mom, smacking madly on my Doublemint gum before any flavor could even hit my tastebuds!
This year, however, I’m a little more relaxed having sat through almost another completed season. Although, recently, my mother-in-law wondered why the gymnasium bleacher we were sitting on (while Paige wrestled on the mat in front of us) was shaking rapidly, only for her and I to both realize it was from my leg bouncing up and down uncontrollably. Okay so maybe I’ll never be 100% chill while Paige is in a match, and that’s okay!

It really has been a fun year so far watching these girls wrestle. They’ve learned quickly, as girl’s high school wrestling was only sanctioned into Nebraska just last year. For most of the young ladies wrestling, this is a completely new-to-them sport.
Paige’s technique, skill, and knowledge have improved so much. She has a lot more control out on the mat than she did last year. Sometimes she pins her opponent and sometimes she doesn’t, but regardless she wrestles hard.

I’ve noticed, though, that once her opponent gets Paige on her back it’s typically game over for Paige and she ends up getting pinned almost immediately. There’s a strategy Paige could use to her advantage to help keep her from getting pinned and it’s called “bridging”. Paige won’t do this, ever. Shhhh, don’t let her opponents know this.
Bridging involves lifting the pelvis off the ground so that the body weight is supported on the shoulders (or head) and the rest of the weight is supported on the feet at the other end of the body.
When I asked Paige ‘how come she never uses this move,’ she said ‘it’s because it terrifies her and she’s afraid she’ll get her neck broke.’
Well okay then, no argument from this mom. I get it and I’m in complete agreement. I would never dismiss her concerns and ask that she give it a try just for a chance at a win. Never. So we’ve indisputably settled and you won’t get a bridge out of Paige…reasonably so. On the other hand, there are other ways out for Paige to utilize and get out from under her opponent before a pin would happen and I’m certain as she gains more muscle and experience she’ll opt for those instead.
In learning of Paige’s issue with bridging during a wrestling match I could have argued the matter and urged her to try it regardless of her concerns. But instead she felt comfortable enough to share her biggest fear in wrestling, she opened up, and was met with limitless understanding and no frustration.
As I think about this, I’m reminded of the way our Sweet Heavenly Coach meets us on our mental or spiritual wrestling mat with mercy and grace over our struggles and insecurities. I think of the way that His understanding opens the door to mercy, and grace kindly follows— simultaneously pardoning any potential grudge-holding.
Wonderful and encouraging mercy and grace.
It’s what helps us want to continue onward.
When we take notice of our shortcomings, communicate our concerns to God, and seek forgiveness, God gives to us boundless mercy and grace. Our posture should be one of gratitude, and the desire to embrace this type of kindness while extending it to others.
Who needs a “bridge” anyway when we have the Lord, and the fullness of His mercy and grace, to walk upon the waters alongside us, leading us to the ultimate victory…
Weekend blessings, friends!❤️
Alicia, I can relate to how you feel sitting there and watching Paige be thrown and twisted around while wrestling. My son had a go at rugby sometime ago and the rough playing with the body hits was something I could not handle.
Love the connection you made with God being patient with us as we struggle with our worries and shortcomings. I am thankful that he does.
Have a good weekend 💐
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Yes watching our kids go through what seems like torment is tough…as I think about this I can’t imagine how God must’ve felt as His son hung on the cross…we have much to be grateful for.
Thank you for reading and sharing Manu.❤️
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Isn’t it amazing, Alicia, the revelations we get as we sit in the bleachers watching our children? http://seekingdivineperspective.com/2019/01/25/revelation-in-the-bleachers/
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Yes definitely!! Thank you for the link Annie, looking forward to what the Lord taught you in the bleachers.❤️
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I thought I remembered that post title! I’d read it when you posted it a few years back.❤️Reminds me a lot of the same message I was portraying in my writing today. 😍
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These matches would make me nervous too. And so does the thought of the bridge. I’m glad Paige was able to realize the danger and therefore not use the move… I love the spiritual connection here too. “As I think about this, I’m reminded of the way our Sweet Heavenly Coach meets us on our mental or spiritual wrestling mat with mercy and grace over our struggles and insecurities.” This is something to ponder. I sure have been wrestling and struggling a lot lately. But your post reminds me of the loving God we have. I am continually amazed by His immeasurable love. Thank you, Friend! Have a lovely weekend! 💜
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We can get quite distracted by our struggles and forget that He’s already on the other side with the victory, regardless of our situation…He has got us!! Perfectly and entirely. I’m with you and so thankful for God’s love.
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That was a nice way to tie that in! I woul be a nervous wreck too if my daughter was wrestling!
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Yes I get a workout just from being a spectator!! Thank you for reading Lisa!
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Ohh….watching our kids struggle and being helpless to do anything about it….imagine how God feels when we try to do things on our own! Yikes
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Yes so true, Barb!! We need His guidance along the way!! 🙏❤️
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I’m glad your daughter gives as much priority to safety as to winning. Smart kid.
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Yes so true!❤️Thank you Debi!
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I love the thought of the part that God wants to play in my life of struggles. He isn’t just a spectator but He is actively beside me, giving His mercy and grace, as you said. I am needing both in my life right now, and needing to extend that mercy and grace as we are in a particular struggle. Thank you for sharing these thoughts, Alicia. Have a blessed Lord’s Day!
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Go Paige!!!
I was competing on the wrestling team when I was her age. Strength-building all around. She will do well.
She will know more of what Paul meant when saying, “We do not wrestle against flesh and blood…”
Way to go, Mom!
God’s grip- Alan
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Yes and praise God!❤️ Thank you Alan for your kind words!
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Praise God he’s our Heavenly Coach–not just standing on the sidelines, leaving us to struggle on our own. Wonderful analogy, Alicia. P.S. I admire your daughter for participating in such a challenging sport!
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Thank you Nancy!!
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Will there be a Girl’s State wrestling tournament?
Jesus is our coach who empowers us 🙂
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There is a state wrestling tournament..I think mid to late February.
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