Normally on Thanksgiving Day our family heads over to my grandma’s house as a tradition. My girls and I show up earlier than everyone else so we can help her out where needed.
If you remember my post from last year she brazenly informed us before the big day that she “absolutely wasn’t going to cook any of the meal!! Everybody could just bring everything over!!”…her next sentence went like this: “I do plan on making the turkey though, and since I’m making the turkey I’ll make the gravy…and since I’m making those I’ll make the stuffing and mashed potatoes and biscuits to top it off.”
…She’s got some dementia going so not everything makes sense in these more recent years.
I let her know we’d be over extra early Thanksgiving morning to help her—and when my girls and I arrived she had most everything done except potatoes and biscuits…tables were set, relish trays were started, turkey was dried out…and the rest of the family wasn’t due to arrive for another six hours!!
‘Grandma, when did you do all of this?!!”
“I started it last night and pulled an all-nighter,” she replied nonchalantly.
She said she’d gone to bed at six a.m. and woke up at nine! I’m gonna assume that wasn’t the dementia speaking and she really only had got three hours of sleep…which in hindsight would be dementia-default-mode.
So this year she called and said once again that she wasn’t going to host Thanksgiving, and she actually is serious this time. She made plans to go with my uncle to his in-laws which left the rest of us creating a new game plan.
I don’t handle change well. I like routine, habit, and tradition but nevertheless as time moves, change comes at one point or another, sometimes a good thing and sometimes not.
We’ve decided we’ll all gather at mine and Nate’s place tomorrow for Thanksgiving dinner. Yes it will be different, but honestly I’m not freaking out. I’m not having a meltdown. I’m okay with it…(I actually think I’m starting to grow up somewhat, emotionally. It’s weird.)
My grandma is getting older, it’s a part of life and something I have to accept. I need to be thankful she’s still here regardless of not spending Thanksgiving Day with her. I’ll visit her next week with the kids and put her Christmas tree up and decorate her house and a thanksgiving atmosphere will still be felt within our hearts even if the calendar date isn’t showing November 28th.
Some of you reading this may also be looking at Thanksgiving a little differently than the years before—travel plans might have changed due to weather, maybe finances have left too small of a budget for the abundant feasts you’d hoped for, others have lost loved ones over the past year and healing still feels far away.
Whatever the circumstance—there’s one thing that will never change year after year—God loves us no matter what life has thrown our way. And His word reminds us ‘He is the same yesterday and today and forever.’ (Hebrews 13:8) When life changes, when plans fumble, and tradition breaks—God still remains and He offers a Thanksgiving more gratifying than any turkey dinner can ever, EVER offer. Any day of the year.
Blessings and beautiful Thanksgiving wishes to you all!
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. -1 Chronicles 16:34